Some Imams Don’t Get It – Compassion Trumps Bigotry – Love Overcomes Hate

Al-Maghrib instructors, Mohammed Faqih (far left) who also serves as the Imam at the IIOC mosque in Anaheim, California and Abdulbary Yahya (next to Faqih) who also serves as the Imam at Masjid Jaamiul Muslimeen in Seattle had this to stay about the recent passage of legislation in New York state legalizing same-sex marriage:

Faqih on his facebook page and twitter: “Nauseated and feeling sick! Couldn’t give tonight’s lecture and had to ask for a sub… I thought it was the sub I had for lunch, turns out to be the “new law” NY has just passed.”

Yahya on his ironically titled blog Nourishing the [Straight] Mind, Body, & Soul:

“Please don’t call it marriage. Dear New York and those who follow your path,If you are going to legalize the union of two people of the same sex, please don’t call it marriage.  Find another word for it.  Marriage from the time of Adam and Eve till now has always been: “The formal union of a man and a woman.” I can help you with some words if you want…like “Gomorrahiage”, “Soddomiage”, and I can go on but I know you guys are smart enough to make one up yourselves.

Oh and please don’t go protesting in front of Websters, Oxford, Cambridge, dictionary,com and other such companies and institutions to force them to change their definition for you.

I once heard Riad Ouarzazi mention his time as a taxi driver in California and his dislike and disdain for picking up gay passengers complete with full affected facial and hand gestures. Once he picked up two gay men and they embraced inside his cab so Ouarzazi made sure to break suddenly at least once or more so their heads would painfully bump against each other and their ride would be as unpleasant as possible. Compassion and mercy FAIL.
To sit in Al-Maghrib Institute classes where bigoted statements about gays and lesbians are normalized is difficult but to their credit not all of the teachers express such bigoted statements publicly. Men who wear dresses and affectionately hug and kiss other men hoping for multicultural understanding shouldn’t throw stones.

Author: me2

I'm a real Muslim gay girl.

3 thoughts on “Some Imams Don’t Get It – Compassion Trumps Bigotry – Love Overcomes Hate”

  1. Assalamu.Alaykum,
    As much as i appreciate your quality of writing, I can’t leave the page without expressing a few concerns.And I am just a normal teen and not one of those shaykhs who pull out their haram guns all the time. Being gay like most people think is not a defect of the gene. Rather its psychological issue. Remember Allah a lot, and if you have time please do watch Dr.Bilal Philips’ lecture on homosexuality.

    1. Wa alaykum salaam concernedsister,

      As you described yourself as a teenager, I assuming that you have not yet entered into a serious study of psychology thus your comments about a possible psychological dimension to being gay do not carry much weight. I do agree with the major psychological and psychiatric professional organizations who have long recognized that being gay is not simply a choice or a psychological issue and that for many trying to change one’s sexual orientation is profoundly harmful.

      I’ve already watched that lecture by Bilal Philips, I did not find it insightful nor helpful.

      I will concede that some gay people just like everyone else may have psychological issues but just as you cannot think your way out of being heterosexual neither can I think my way out of being gay.

  2. Assalamu Alaykum,

    I’m a straight, young moderate Muslim female and I wanted to give some insight. I noticed on this blog you mostly include the opinions of male authoritative figures in the Muslim community.

    From the Quran, Sunnah and other proofs written by Muslim scholars, I don’t think OPENLY giving into homosexual tendencies is acceptable in Islam. I think that people who ACT on their desires (fornication, lying, gossiping, etc.) are being sinful and will have to face Allah for the crimes they committed against themselves. Fornication is a graver sin and has graver consequences, but like all other sins, after you face Allah and if Allah forgives you, you enter paradise.

    I don’t think somebody who has homosexual feelings and doesn’t act on them is sinning. These people and even those who acted on their feelings and then repented, are not banned from Paradise. The confusion comes with the principles: are you sinning and recognize you’re sinning or are you denying that it is haram altogether?

    If you’re sinning, everybody sins- repent. If you are committing shirk or creating your own belief systems altogether and denying what’s in the Quran and Sunnah, then this is a sin that cannot be forgiven. And the belief system your creating should not be associated with Islam.

    If you are sinning, there is no sin too great that Allah will not forgive it except for shirk (or ascribing another partner to Allah). Every person on this Earth sins. We all have those sins that we constantly commit and try to distance ourselves from. These desires and distractions are our tests in the dunya. And some people have more difficult tests than others. There is not one day that goes by that I don’t sin. But I don’t deny that I’m sinning or try to justify my actions by saying its human nature. It is man’s nature to sin because we are all flawed. And the reason we were created flawed was so that we can sin and repent to Allah.

    Repent. Ask Allah to remove your sins and move you away from these practices. Ask Allah to remove the burden of having these feelings and desires. In sha Allah you will find some benefit from my post. In sha Allah you repent and Allah removes your sins and leads you to the right path. Ameen.

    Your Sister in Islam

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